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Woman's Reflection on Leading Prayer - by Yasmin Mogahed
04.06.05 (1:19 pm)   [edit]
"Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not--and in all honesty--don't want to be: a man. As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men, and value the beauty in our own God-given distinctiveness."

    On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumuah (Friday) prayer. On that day women took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?

    I don't think so.

    What we so often forget is that God has honored the woman by giving her value in relation to God-not in relation to men. But as western feminism erases God from the scene, there is no standard left-but men. As a result the western feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in so doing she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she becomes just like a man-the standard.

    When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined the army, she wanted to join the army. She wanted these things for no other reason than because the "standard" had it.

    What she didn't recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness--not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women made the very same mistake.

    For 1400 years there has been a consensus of the scholars that men are to lead prayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads prayer is not spiritually superior in any way. Something is not better just because a man does it. And leading prayer is not better, just because it's leading. Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn't the Prophet have asked Ayesha or Khadija, or Fatima-the greatest women of all time-to lead? These women were promised heaven-and yet they never lead prayer.

    But now for the first time in 1400 years, we look at a man leading prayer and we think, "That's not fair." We think so although God has given no special privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than the one who prays behind.

    On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And God has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet taught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?

    When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied 'your mother' three times before saying 'your father' only once. Isn't that sexist? No matter what a man does he will never be able to have the status of a mother.

    And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it-or even notice. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, inferior. Being sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother-a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality (considered masculine) and self-less compassion (considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.

    As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it-we want it too. If men pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the front rows too. If men lead prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we want to lead prayer too. Somewhere along the line we've accepted the notion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one's position with God.

    A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn't need a man.

    In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.

    Fifty years ago, society told us that men were superior because they left the home to work in factories. We were mothers. And yet, we were told that it was women's liberation to abandon the raising of another human being in order to work on a machine. We accepted that working in a factory was superior to raising the foundation of society-just because a man did it.

    Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman-the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker-and have the perfect career. And while there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men. We watched as our children became strangers and soon recognized the privilege we'd given up.

    And so only now-given the choice-women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their children. According to the United States Department of Agriculture, only 31 percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more children, are working full-time. And of those working mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, found that 93% of them say they would rather be home with their kids, but are compelled to work due to 'financial obligations'. These 'obligations' are 
imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West, and removed from women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.

    It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a privilege given to Muslim women 1400 years ago.

    Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not--and in all honesty--don't want to be: a man. As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men, and value the beauty in our own God-given distinctiveness.

    If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion.

    And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet-I choose heaven.

 
US praise for Malaysia criticised
04.06.05 (9:02 am)   [edit]

Former Malaysian deputy premier Anwar Ibrahim has attacked the United States for endorsing Malaysia as a moderate Muslim democracy, when it actually enjoyed little freedom.



The rebel politician on Tuesday said there were no free and fair elections in Malaysia and complained of a lack of freedom of speech, which hindered exposure of corruption in the country led by Prime Minister Abdullah Ahmad Badawi.
  
"How do you have free and fair elections when the views of the opposition are not heard?" Anwar asked in his first public address in the United States since being released from prison in September last year.


"The entire media is controlled by the ruling party and you have free and fair elections?"


US ignorance


"I mean it is mockery, it is mockery even when Washington, for example, approves this sort of exercise because it just portrays your utter ignorance or inconsistency in dealing with such countries," he said at the Johns Hopkins University's Washington-based School of Advanced International Studies. 


Anwar had enjoyed close ties with the US government before the heir-apparent to then-premier Mahathir Muhammad was sacked and later jailed on corruption and sodomy charges, which he says were trumped up to prevent him challenging Mahathir for the premiership.
  
He was freed from nearly six years in prison when Malaysia's top court overturned his sodomy conviction. But the court refused to allow an appeal against his corruption conviction, effectively barring him from active politics until 2008 under regulations governing convicted criminals.


Improving ties


Malaysia is often cited as a moderate and model Muslim country by the Bush administration. Bilateral relations have flourished since Abdullah took over from Mahathir, an ardent critic of the West, in October 2003.


Anwar said the United States and other Western nations were willing to look the other way if countries supported their "war on terror".


"They are so gullible. As long as you come out openly and publicly condemn terror, then you get away with murder," he said.
  
Apprantly backing his claim that there was little freedom in Malaysia, the 57-year-old Anwar said he was prevented from speaking to university students.
 
"I am not in a position to speak to students in any university in the country. And you are talking about a moderate Muslim country with democracy as being claimed".
  
"If you want to be a moderate Muslim country, you cannot condone corruption," he said.

 
Former Deputy Prime Minister of Malaysia Joins SAIS, Gives First U.S. Public Address<
04.04.05 (1:12 pm)   [edit]

Presenting his first public address in the United States, Anwar Ibrahim, former deputy prime minister of Malaysia, will speak at SAIS at 12:30 p.m. on Tuesday, April 5. Anwar's talk is titled "Reflections: The Asian Economic Crisis and Political Transitions in Southeast Asia."

The SAIS Foreign Policy Institute last week appointed Anwar as a distinguished senior visiting fellow.

Anwar was recently released from prison in Malaysia after serving six years on charges of corruption and sodomy; he won his appeal on the sodomy charges in September 2004. His arrest in 1998 was a defining moment in contemporary Malaysian politics.

After a record of student activism at the University of Malaya, Anwar entered politics in the 1970s, joining the ruling United Malays National Organization in 1982. He served as minister of youth, culture and sports; minister of education; and minister of finance. In 1997 he published Asian Renaissance and emerged as a strong advocate for civil society, economic liberalization, moderate Islam and democratic governance.

As a distinguished senior visiting fellow, Anwar will present seminars on contemporary Southeast Asian politics, economic reform, Islam and democracy and, in general, join in SAIS activities. He is currently working on his prison diaries, to be published later this year, and a project examining democratization in the Muslim world. He also will counsel students who wish to learn more about Southeast Asia and the Muslim world.

The event will be held in the Kenney Auditorium of the Nitze Building. To attend, non-SAIS affiliates should RSVP to sea-sais@jhu.edu or 202-663-5837.

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Mixed feelings about guest labor - by Thomas Fuller
04.04.05 (1:09 pm)   [edit]

Over the past decade, this relatively prosperous country has tried just about everything to keep illegal workers away: The government built a concrete wall along part of the jungle-covered border with Thailand, it staged a series of police crackdowns including one called Operation Nyah - literally "go away" - and since 2002, it has arrested and whipped more than 18,000 foreigners living in the country illegally. The most recent crackdown, which began in March, appears more definitive than previous ones, with nearly half a million foreign workers said to have returned home, mainly to Indonesia.


But with relations with Indonesia now severely strained and businesses here complaining about worker shortages, many Malaysians are wondering whether the cure is worse than the disease. The government says it will now diversify the sources of its labor away from Indonesia. Among its plans is the recruiting of 100,000 people from Pakistan. But these plans have frightened some who fear that Pakistanis could bring a more militant form of Islam with them and would not adapt as well as Indonesians, the majority of whom are ethnically and culturally very similar to Malays, the largest ethnic group in Malaysia.


The larger issue for the region, experts say, is the sustainability of a "guest worker" system in which foreigners, illegal or not, are sometimes tolerated and at other times expelled. "You end up having a very unstable labor pool," said Vivian Wee, the associate director of the Southeast Asia Research Center at the City University of Hong Kong. "Your businesses go up and down every time you decide to kick out the illegal labor. It affects the whole economic planning."


The alternative is an immigration policy like those of Australia, Canada, the United States and to a lesser extent European countries, where there are regulated quota systems for immigrants. But despite the obvious long-term needs for labor in many Asian countries there is very little discussion about immigration programs, mainly because of fears that it could upset delicate racial balances.


In the meantime experts are recording large migration flows throughout the region: Wee estimates that in recent years about 3 million Chinese have moved into Myanmar; Singapore relies heavily on foreign construction and service-industry workers, Hong Kong on Filipino maids and Thailand on Myanmar laborers. The Japanese government announced last week that it would increase its intake of skilled and unskilled foreign workers to make up for a labor shortfall anticipated as of 2007.


The Malaysian case is significant because the country remains one of the largest importers of foreign labor in Asia. An estimated quarter of the work force - 2.5 to 3 million workers out of a working population of 9 million - is foreign, according to P. Ramasamy, a political science professor at the National University of Malaysia.


Much of modern Malaysia was built by foreign labor, including the administrative capital of Putrajaya, where the first person buried in the cemetery was an Indonesian construction worker who died on the job. The government's plan to dilute the Indonesian presence by recruiting Pakistani workers has been questioned in the mainstream press.


"As Pakistan is facing some serious security problems at home due to the threat of terrorism, there is understandable concern that some of the troublemakers may be coming over here posing as workers," wrote V. K. Chin, a columnist of the Star newspaper. The government said over the weekend that the first Pakistani workers would arrive sometime in late April or early May. It says it is screening them for terrorist links.


Ramasamy predicted that the plans to tap Pakistani workers would "backfire" because they would not blend in as well as Indonesians. "You've had minimal social problems with Indonesian workers," Ramasamy said. "They came and they brought their families."


Nearly 14,000 children of illegal immigrants, many of them Indonesians, were registered in Malaysia between 2001 and August 2004, according to government figures. There is also the larger question of whether any government is able to break time-honored migration patterns. Indonesians have traveled to the Malay Peninsula for centuries, long before countries like Indonesia and Malaysia existed.


"They will come anyway," Ramasamy said of Indonesians. "They are not going to go through the legal channels." Joseph Chinyong Liow, a Malaysia specialist at the Institute of Defense and Strategic Studies in Singapore, says the earliest Malay writings show the ancient migration patterns.


"Migration from the Indonesian Archipelago to the Malay Peninsula has long been a feature of the interaction and exchange that defines the identity of the Indo-Malay world," he wrote in a recent paper on the subject. Today, Indonesians have a mixed reputation in Malaysia. Managers at rubber and palm oil plantations say they are hardworking and able to withstand arduous conditions.


Others blame Indonesians for a perceived increase in crime - although official figures do not entirely bear this out: Last year the internal security ministry said illegal immigrants were responsible for 6.9 percent of crimes, a relatively small percentage. Estimates of their numbers before the crackdown went as high as 1.2 million in a country of 25 million people. The current crackdown in Malaysia was preceded by an amnesty and postponed several times, partly because of the tsunami that struck last year in Sumatra, where many of the foreign workers come from.


But after Malaysian security forces began what they called Operation Tegas, or "firm," rounding up thousands of illegal workers, Indonesians reacted angrily. Coupled with a dispute over rights to oil off the east coast of Borneo, the crackdown led to flag-burning protests in Jakarta and created a general feeling of resentment among the Indonesian elite over Malaysia's harsh treatment of captured illegal immigrants, including the policy of whipping them.


"The jailing and the caning is very barbaric," said Anwar Ibrahim, Malaysia's former deputy prime minister. Caning, a practice that dates to British colonial times, involves using a wet rattan stick to whip the prisoner on his buttocks, often splitting the skin and leaving scars.


"This is what causing anger in Indonesia," Anwar said. "It's not that they are being repatriated. It's the way that they were treated." Among the 18,607 illegal immigrants who were whipped over the past three years, 11,473 were Indonesians; 2,786 Burmese, 1,956 Filipinos and 708 Bangladeshis, according to figures released in December by Malaysia's Home Ministry.


The Indonesian minister of manpower, Fahmi Idris, accused the Malaysian government last month of being one-sided in its crackdown. He questioned why workers were being whipped but not the Malaysians who had hired them. Four days later the New Straits Times, the leading English-language daily in Kuala Lumpur, carried an official announcement that 24 employers had been charged with hiring illegal workers and would face caning if convicted.


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Island in The Sun
10.28.04 (5:02 pm)   [edit]
So its been really tensed up lately with work. The fact that I have to wake up at 6AM every morning, yeah 6AM, shower and go to work throws me off the whole idea of wanting to graduate as soon as possible and come back and start working. Thats not all, I'm at the office at least till 7PM and I tell you thats only on rare ocasions where I just cant find anything else to do. But usually there's always stuff to do and there's always someone who pile their shit on your like ur the f**king toilet bowl. And thats when I end up coming home at 9 at night and its been going on for awhile.

But then again don't get me wrong, its not like I don't enjoy the work, I do!!!...one thing I can be sure is that this is an awesome experience and I wouldnt want to let it go. With all the diffeent kinds of people that I meet, business engagements and also business trips, its just been a blast. But the fact remains that anywhere in the world you go, there's definitely gonna be a jerk off whose gonna ruin ur day. These people are professionals for God sake and they act like 10 year old kid..sometimes I think I work better with kids and i guess that's why I should just get married, stay at home and start up a Daddy Day Care....ladies, hows that sound!!

So the truth is, I miss Cornell so much. I miss all those times where I can just sleep in and forget about classes and pretend that the world just stop moving. I miss the people and definitely for sure polo and the horses. I miss the fall and soon to come winter, the feeling of the chill wind creeping up to ur bones. Offcourse it's a totally different thing in school and at work. But if given the choice that I still get to be a millionaire by 40 even by staying in school, hell I would never wanna work again. It's so weird that sometimes people thing that money is not everything when its actually everything. One thing I know, money turns u on baby!!!

So I got these couple of pictures from a friend of mine from Cornell. He's a great photographer and I hope he doesnt mind me sharing his pictures here. Well I'm still giving some sort of credits to him, so wut the heck.

 


 

This is an awesome picture of the fall season in Cornell. Beautiful huhh....wish u were here hhmmm dont think so!! You'd probably don't want to end up in Cornell, so don't get fool by the beautiful scenaries when the fact remains that its a whole lot more harder to graduate that to commit suicide!!! Wut a traitor I am to Cornell...but hey its true. I remeber once a friend of mine who graduated last May had a special quot for Cornell..

"Cornell is like unprotected sex...it feels really good when you get in... but then you wish you never came..." -Murshid Azman 06'

 


 

This is another master piece. Its in front of Goldwin Smith Hall for Arts and Sciences, basically the route  that i take everyday to class. Again just to warn you, regard this images as a mirage...hahaha DONT BE FOOLED!!! This is one those beautiful days where u just wake and see the sun and thats it, it just made ur day. You know sometimes I wonder, why does the weather matters a lot to these Americ ans. I didnt realize it till I got here that having the sun shining up above ur head is like a blessing from God. When back home in Malaysia, we dont even care about the sun. In fact its even better if it just forgets to rise one day...its freaking hot back home and I bet some people are just waiting for the time that public nudity is acceptable in the society so they can just take off their clothes whenever they want to .....to bad that its not gonna happen in the near future.

Woowww....amazingly this is the first time I'm writing crap on my blog. I guess its been kinda lame of me writing practical worldly comments each and every time. So no harm in a little bit of variations. Stay ALIVE!!!

Rais Imran

Carpe Diem!!!
 
The Clash of Ignorance - by Edward W. Said
09.13.04 (12:52 pm)   [edit]
     Samuel Huntington's article "The Clash of Civilizations?" appeared in the Summer 1993 issue of Foreign Affairs, where it immediately attracted a surprising amount of attention and reaction. Because the article was intended to supply Americans with an original thesis about "a new phase" in world politics after the end of the cold war, Huntington's terms of argument seemed compellingly large, bold, even visionary. He very clearly had his eye on rivals in the policy-making ranks, theorists such as Francis Fukuyama and his "end of history" ideas, as well as the legions who had celebrated the onset of globalism, tribalism and the dissipation of the state. But they, he allowed, had understood only some aspects of this new period. He was about to announce the "crucial, indeed a central, aspect" of what "global politics is likely to be in the coming years." Unhesitatingly he pressed on:

   "It is my hypothesis that the fundamental source of conflict in this new world will not be primarily ideological or primarily economic. The great divisions among humankind and the dominating source of conflict will be cultural. Nation states will remain the most powerful actors in world affairs, but the principal conflicts of global politics will occur between nations and groups of different civilizations. The clash of civilizations will dominate global politics. The fault lines between civilizations will be the battle
lines of the future."

   Most of the argument in the pages that followed relied on a vague notion of something Huntington called "civilization identity" and "the interactions among seven or eight [sic] major civilizations," of which the conflict between two of them, Islam and the West, gets the lion's share of his attention. In this belligerent kind of thought, he relies heavily on a 1990 article by the veteran Orientalist Bernard Lewis, whose ideological colors are manifest in its title, "The Roots of Muslim Rage." In both articles, the personification of enormous entities called "the West" and "Islam" is recklessly affirmed, as if hugely complicated matters like identity and culture existed in a cartoonlike world where Popeye and Bluto bash each other mercilessly, with one always more virtuous pugilist getting the upper
hand over his adversary. Certainly neither Huntington nor Lewis has much time to spare for the internal dynamics and plurality of every civilization, or for the fact that the major contest in most modern cultures concerns the definition or interpretation of each culture, or for the unattractive possibility that a great deal of demagogy and downright ignorance is involved in presuming to speak for a whole religion or civilization. No, the West is the West, and Islam Islam.

   The challenge for Western policy-makers, says Huntington, is to make
sure that the West gets stronger and fends off all the others, Islam in particular. More troubling is Huntington's assumption that his perspective, which is to survey the entire world from a perch outside all ordinary attachments and hidden loyalties, is the correct one, as if everyone else were scurrying around looking for the answers that he has already found. In fact, Huntington is an ideologist, someone who wants to make "civilizations" and "identities" into what they are not: shut-down, sealed-off entities that have been purged of the myriad currents and countercurrents that animate human history, and that over centuries have made it possible
for that history not only to contain wars of religion and imperial conquest but also to be one of exchange, cross-fertilization and sharing. This far less visible history is ignored in the rush to highlight the ludicrously compressed and constricted warfare that "the clash of civilizations" argues is the reality. When he published his book by the same title in 1996, Huntington tried to give his argument a little more subtlety and many, many more footnotes; all he did, however, was confuse himself and demonstrate what a clumsy writer and inelegant thinker he was.

   The basic paradigm of West versus the rest (the cold war opposition
reformulated) remained untouched, and this is what has persisted, often
insidiously and implicitly, in discussion since the terrible events of September 11. The carefully planned and horrendous, pathologically motivated suicide attack and mass slaughter by a small group of deranged militants has been turned into proof of Huntington's thesis. Instead of seeing it for what it is--the capture of big ideas (I use the word loosely) by a tiny band of crazed fanatics for criminal purposes--international luminaries from former Pakistani Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto to Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi have pontificated about Islam's troubles, and in the latter's case have used Huntington's ideas to rant on about the West's superiority, how "we" have Mozart and Michelangelo and they don't.
(Berlusconi has since made a halfhearted apology for his insult to "Islam.")

   But why not instead see parallels, admittedly less spectacular in their
destructiveness, for Osama bin Laden and his followers in cults like the Branch Davidians or the disciples of the Rev. Jim Jones at Guyana or the Japanese Aum Shinrikyo? Even the normally sober British weekly The Economist, in its issue of September 22-28, can't resist reaching for the vast generalization, praising Huntington extravagantly for his "cruel and sweeping, but nonetheless acute" observations about Islam. "Today," the journal says with unseemly solemnity, Huntington writes that "the world's billion or so Muslims are 'convinced of the superiority of their culture, and obsessed with the inferiority of their power.'" Did he canvas 100 Indonesians, 200 Moroccans, 500 Egyptians and fifty Bosnians? Even if he did, what sort of sample is that?

   Uncountable are the editorials in every American and European newspaper and magazine of note adding to this vocabulary of gigantism and apocalypse, each use of which is plainly designed not to edify but to inflame the reader's indignant passion as a member of the "West," and what we need to do. Churchillian rhetoric is used inappropriately by self-appointed combatants in the West's, and especially America's, war against its haters, despoilers, destroyers, with scant attention to complex histories that defy such reductiveness and have seeped from one territory into another, in the process overriding the boundaries that are supposed to separate us all into divided armed camps.

   This is the problem with unedifying labels like Islam and the West: They mislead and confuse the mind, which is trying to make sense of a disorderly reality that won't be pigeonholed or strapped down as easily as all that. I remember interrupting a man who, after a lecture I had given at a West Bank university in 1994, rose from the audience and started to attack my ideas as "Western," as opposed to the strict Islamic ones he espoused. "Why are you wearing a suit and tie?" was the first retort that came to mind. "They're Western too." He sat down with an embarrassed smile on his face, but I recalled the incident when information on the September 11 terrorists started to come in: how they had mastered all the technical details required to inflict their homicidal evil on the World Trade Center, the Pentagon and the aircraft they had commandeered. Where does one draw the line between "Western" technology and, as Berlusconi declared, "Islam's" inability to be a part of "modernity"?

   One cannot easily do so, of course. How finally inadequate are the labels, generalizations and cultural assertions. At some level, for instance, primitive passions and sophisticated know-how converge in ways that give the lie to a fortified boundary not only between "West" and "Islam" but also between past and present, us and them, to say nothing of the very concepts of identity and nationality about which there is unending disagreement and debate. A unilateral decision made to draw lines in the sand, to undertake crusades, to oppose their evil with our good, to extirpate terrorism and, in Paul Wolfowitz's nihilistic vocabulary, to end nations entirely, doesn't make the supposed entities any easier to see; rather, it speaks to how much simpler it is to make bellicose statements for the purpose of mobilizing collective passions than to reflect, examine, sort out what it is we are dealing with in reality, the interconnectedness of
innumerable lives, "ours" as well as "theirs."

   In a remarkable series of three articles published between January and
March 1999 in Dawn, Pakistan's most respected weekly, the late Eqbal
Ahmad, writing for a Muslim audience, analyzed what he called the roots
of the religious right, coming down very harshly on the mutilations of
Islam by absolutists and fanatical tyrants whose obsession with regulating personal behavior promotes "an Islamic order reduced to a penal code, stripped of its humanism, aesthetics, intellectual quests, and spiritual devotion." And this "entails an absolute assertion of one, generally de-contextualized, aspect of religion and a total disregard of another. The phenomenon distorts religion, debases tradition, and twists the political process wherever it unfolds." As a timely instance of this debasement, Ahmad proceeds first to present the rich, complex, pluralist meaning of the
word jihad and then goes on to show that in the word's current confinement to indiscriminate war against presumed enemies, it is impossible "to recognize the Islamic--religion, society, culture, history or politics--as lived and experienced by Muslims through the ages." The modern Islamists, Ahmad concludes, are "concerned with power, not with the soul; with the mobilization of people for political purposes rather than with sharing and alleviating their sufferings and aspirations. Theirs is a very limited and time-bound political agenda." What has made matters worse is that similar distortions and zealotry occur in the "Jewish" and "Christian" universes of discourse.

   It was Conrad, more powerfully than any of his readers at the end of the nineteenth century could have imagined, who understood that the distinctions between civilized London and "the heart of darkness" quickly collapsed in extreme situations, and that the heights of European civilization could instantaneously fall into the most barbarous practices without preparation or transition. And it was Conrad also, in The Secret Agent (1907), who described terrorism's affinity for abstractions like "pure science" (and by extension for "Islam" or "the West"), as well as the terrorist's ultimate moral degradation.

   For there are closer ties between apparently warring civilizations than
most of us would like to believe; both Freud and Nietzsche showed how
the traffic across carefully maintained, even policed boundaries moves
with often terrifying ease. But then such fluid ideas, full of ambiguity and skepticism about notions that we hold on to, scarcely furnish us with suitable, practical guidelines for situations such as the one we face now. Hence the altogether more reassuring battle orders (a crusade, good versus evil, freedom against fear, etc.) drawn out of Huntington's alleged opposition between Islam and the West, from which official discourse drew its vocabulary in the first days after the September 11 attacks. There's
since been a noticeable de-escalation in that discourse, but to judge from the steady amount of hate speech and actions, plus reports of law
enforcement efforts directed against Arabs, Muslims and Indians all over the country, the paradigm stays on.

   One further reason for its persistence is the increased presence of
Muslims all over Europe and the United States. Think of the populations today of France, Italy, Germany, Spain, Britain, America, even Sweden, and you must concede that Islam is no longer on the fringes of the West but at its center. But what is so threatening about that presence? Buried in the collective culture are memories of the first great Arab-Islamic conquests, which began in the seventh century and which, as the celebrated Belgian historian Henri Pirenne wrote in his landmark book Mohammed and Charlemagne (1939), shattered once and for all the ancient unity of the Mediterranean, destroyed the Christian-Roman synthesis and gave rise to a new civilization dominated by northern powers (Germany and Carolingian France) whose mission, he seemed to be saying, is to resume defense of the "West" against its historical-cultural enemies. What Pirenne left out, alas, is that in the creation of this new line of defense the West drew on the humanism, science, philosophy, sociology and historiography of Islam, which had already interposed itself between Charlemagne's world and classical antiquity. Islam is inside from the start, as even Dante, great enemy of Mohammed, had to concede when he placed the Prophet at the very heart of his Inferno.

   Then there is the persisting legacy of monotheism itself, the Abrahamic religions, as Louis Massignon aptly called them. Beginning with Judaism and Christianity, each is a successor haunted by what came before; for Muslims, Islam fulfills and ends the line of prophecy. There is still no decent history or demystification of the many-sided contest among these three followers--not one of them by any means a monolithic, unified camp--of the most jealous of all gods, even though the bloody modern convergence on Palestine furnishes a rich secular instance of what has been so tragically
irreconcilable about them. Not surprisingly, then, Muslims and Christians speak readily of crusades and jihads, both of them eliding the Judaic presence with often sublime insouciance. Such an agenda, says Eqbal Ahmad, is "very reassuring to the men and women who are stranded in the middle of the ford, between the deep waters of tradition and modernity."

   But we are all swimming in those waters, Westerners and Muslims and
others alike. And since the waters are part of the ocean of history,
trying to plow or divide them with barriers is futile. These are tense
times, but it is better to think in terms of powerful and powerless communities, the secular politics of reason and ignorance, and universal principles of justice and injustice, than to wander off in search of vast abstractions that may give momentary satisfaction but little self-knowledge or informed analysis. "The Clash of Civilizations" thesis is a gimmick like "The War of the Worlds," better for reinforcing defensive self-pride than for critical understanding of the bewildering interdependence of our time.
 
Sex and the City or "Sex and KL..."
09.07.04 (9:48 am)   [edit]

Even as a city boy like any other, the topic of sex has never been in any breakfast table talk in my conservative family. It’s considered taboo. No one would be surprised if this innocent city boy would someday ask his mother to eat more so that she could get another baby, thinking pregnancy is, after all, a result of over-eating.


Ah, the bliss of ignorance.


Parenting during that time was a strict, regimental exercise that sometimes can even put Hitler to shame. Televisions are locked most of the time (yes, they did have built-in locks). Even telephone sets have padlocks, with Dad (or, more realistically, Ayah, Abah or Bapa) having the only key. So kids were, in every way, protected against the `evil outside world’.


But I was not to be deceived for long, and some self-made discoveries later, I was all the more wiser. Which, with the benefit of hindsight, was a feat in itself, considering the absence of the internet and Astro back then. And, yes, the court cases.


Kids nowadays are luckier (or unfortunate, depending on how you look at it) when it comes to sex education. While education in itself carries a positive connotation (even when coupled with sex), there’s always the possibility of abuse of knowledge. Not unlike knowledge of atoms; you could produce limitless energy out of it, or you could choose to produce bombs.


The internet made a forceful presence here sometime in the late eighties, offering limitless information at the fingertips. Of course, after typing a few boring URLs, one would soon be tempted to be a little bit more adventurous. It won’t take long before pornographic sites are found and downloaded. Thus is born another sex seeker internet geek who, in normal life, would not even know where to get a copy of Playboy or Penthouse.


Before long still, the satisfaction of feasting one’s eyes on photos and short films would wane. Some action needs to be done, and somebody introduced a more exciting way to while away time over the internet. Enter the chat rooms.


Originally known as IRC (internet relay chat), these chat rooms sprouted, bearing different names and websites, each suggesting what they have in store. It could be Teen, Veteran, Mischievous or Married But Still Cheeky. They are basically websites where one can assume a nickname, find another partner by nickname, then type in messages via his computer which will be relayed and displayed in real time on the other person’s computer.


It became quite a craze. Soon lots of people were chatting; irrespective of age, race, sex and location. In a way it was good; it opened up venues for friendship between people whom may not lift an eyebrow should they have met casually on a street. But on the internet, they become best friends, buddies, soulmates etc. And more often than not, they also happen to be someone else’s husband. Or wife. And more often than not, what began as a harmless, platonic relationship turns out to be otherwise.


Then came Astro, a subscriber television network that offers round the clock entertainment via satellite, providing programmes that made a mockery of the National Censorship Board. One would still remember how, just a few years down the line, some artists were blacklisted just because they sported long hairs which was, at that time, regarded as having a bad influence on kids. How far have we gone since.


As if all that were not enough, we were later bombarded with lucid details of sexual misconducts via court reporting by the newspapers. Details that made even seasoned husbands blush. Oral sex, anal sex, fetish sex, bondage and what have you. One of my friends once mentioned to me that he was beginning to wonder whether it’s those details that were outrageous, or it’s the sex in his marriage that was lacking. He later proudly confided to me that he has since 'deviated' from his otherwise 'normal missionary position', and I begged him not to tell what he meant by that.


Suddenly Malays have become so modern. We are now the race who work hard, fly up the corporate ladder, get paid high salaries and have a fair share of after office unwinds like spas, pubs, night clubs. And girls.


And so accommodating is our attitude that we allow positive connotations to be attached to them in place of what used to be 'dirty words'. Something like Pusat Istirehat or Pusat Kesihatan instead of massage parlours. And nowadays nobody go to discos or cabarets anymore. They just go 'clubbing'. And we no longer have agogo dancers to entertain us anymore. Now we just have some boring sounding officers like those Guest Relations Officers (GRO). Or for the expatriates, Sarung Party Girls (SPG).


So what does an open minded modern Malay parent do in the midst of all this? How do parents shield them from the notorious outside world that now and again rears its ugly head, either through the internet, media or from seemingly innocent but equally corrupted peers?


The next time the kids pop up questions that we think they shouldn’t have asked, should we look at them in disbelief, in total resignation, and painstakingly tell them what they really should not know, or hush them up with the false hope that it would eventually get out of their minds?


Now, as I look up from the dark rows of parking lots underneath my condo unit and gaze at the brightly lit New York city skyline in the distance, it suddenly dawns on me that the phrase 'Sex And The City' brings a whole new meaning…

 
Which Naruto Character Are You???
07.23.04 (1:38 pm)   [edit]

Which Naruto Character are You?
quiz by orangeday.net
 
Why the Malaysian government should not bown down to Anwar's request
07.15.04 (12:49 pm)   [edit]


Anwar Ibrahim wants to go to Germany to operate on his back. He believes that the operation cannot be conducted safely in this country. The Malaysian government on the other hand, believes that it has done enough to ensure that Anwar has access to medical facilities and will not grant him permission to acquire medical aid overseas.

There are obviously two sides of the coin. Those who believe Anwar is in jail for trumped up sodomy charges, say that he should be allowed to go because he's political prisoner. They argue that Anwar has more to lose if he flees from the country as he has already given his word that he will return. Anwar's wife, Wan Azizah, believes that Anwar's operation might be "sabotaged" if he were to have it here. This is a view that I do not agree with and was accurately rebutted by one Dr Ng Cheong Keat in Malaysiakini. Malaysian doctors are not assasins, and unless they can prove otherwise, this statement is moot. In addition to that, I am sure the Malaysian government will not object to allowing Mr. Anwar to seek a second opinion from a Malaysian government doctor whom he trusts with regards as to how the procedure is going to be done locally, since that is his right as a patient.

Wan Azizah also need not worry, as the Malaysian government will be committing political suicide if they purposely undermined Anwar's operation. It would be in their best interest to ensure that Anwar is healthy and back in jail where he can be blocked out from local and international media coverage. In fact, Pak Lah's credibility will be severely affected should such an incident occur and his position as party president woudl be in jeapordy should Anwar's operation be covertly sabotaged. This is especially so since Tengku Razaleigh now also wants to contest for the UMNO president's post.

On the other hand, the Malaysian government has a point. Under Malaysian law they are only obliged to treat an individual at another country if the said procedure is not available in this country. Doctors who I have spoken too have mentioned that the procedure can be done in the country. Furthermore, the Malaysian government had allowed the doctor from the alphaklinik in Germany to conduct the operation on Malaysian soil, but it was refused.

I believe that the Malaysian government should not bend over backwards for Anwar anymore with regards to this matter.

[b]The bad precedence[/b]

Firstly, allowing Anwar to go to Germany would open pandora's box. Certain questions will definitely need to be answered and could create a legally binding precedence which is bad. Among the questions that need to be answered are:

Under what grounds are we letting Anwar go to jail? Is it because he's an ex-Minister? Or is it because some parties believe that he's a political prisoner?

If we do allow him to go to Germany, will we allow any other ordinary prisoners to seek overseas medical attention? If not, why not? Why must we give Anwar Ibrahim special treatment?

Monetizing the situation might sound unsensitive, but who's to pay for sending Anwar to Germany? More importantly, who is going to foot the bill of Malaysian prisoners in the future who decide to seek treatment overseas?

[b]Comply or else?[/b]

It would not only be unethical to allow Anwar Ibrahim to seek medical treatment overseas, but it will also be bending the law to suit a politician. The Free Anwar movement made a tactical error when they announced that Anwar must be given what he wanted or the government will suffer from "dire consequences". In an age where terror is creating havoc in many parts of the world, that statement has ruled unfavourably against Anwar. How can the Free Anwar Movement expect the government to respond favourably to them when approached with such threats? Obviously the government has to take a hardline stance against such threats in order to ensure that their pride and sovereignity is taken care of. No government in the world can afford to comply to empty threats on policy decisions in this day and age and the Malaysian government is no exception.

[b]Where's your principals Mr.Anwar?[/b]

Gadhi didn't tell his followers to lead a frugal life and then go on to live in a mansion. He lived under the same rules that he preeched. The question is, why can't Mr. Anwar be expected to do the same? Regardless of whether one is a political prisoner or not, Mr. Anwar should take a principaled stance and follow the rules as outlined and applied to all Malaysian prisoners. Mandela didn't ask to wear different prison uniform or demand for special treatment while he was in jail. The same was applied to Gandhi. They fought the evil system using the system. Why then should the Malaysian government accomodate Mr. Anwar's wishes any more than they would accomodate the wishes of famous Malaysian prisoners like Mona Fandey or Botak Chin?

Principally, Mr. Anwar should not demand for special treatment as it reinforces the patronage system that we are currently so desparately trying to fight against in this country. People should not be given special status by virtue of their positions/previous positions. If Mr Anwar agrees to go to Germany, it would be as if he's snubbing the very principals of his own parti - Parti Keadilan Rakyat. Social justice and democracy, can only come when all citizens are treated equally.

While I sincerely believe that Mr. Anwar and family are good people, their request to have his operation overseas unreasonable. The best way to fight the system, is to use the system. And for that Anwar needs to play by the rules.

I wish you all the best Mr. Anwar and hope that you recover soonest.

[i]by Suresh Gnasegarah

Courtesy of SuaraMalaysia.com[/i]
 
Another Essential How to...
07.13.04 (9:55 am)   [edit]
 
Limelight & Shadow
07.13.04 (9:50 am)   [edit]
[b]"If only the sun-drenched celebrities are being noticed and worshipped, then our children are going to have a tough time seeing the value in the shadows, where the thinkers, probers and scientist are keeping society together."
Rita Dove, Poet Laureate of the United States and Consultant to the Library of Congress from 1993 to 1995. [/b]

This has never been more true then it is now. With the growing popularity of shows like "Malaysian Idol", "Akademi Fantasia", "Audition" and countless others, it's evident that society these days are geared towards the worship and adulation of those in the spotlight.

I have absolutely NOTHING against celebrities and artistes. I'm a big fan of great music and creative geniuses. Heck, I would fall in love with a creative genius :-)

MY main concern here is that fame & glamour is being peddled as a sure ticket to success. A guarantee to a life of blissful riches.

I don't deny that superstardom can definitely lead to a blessed life of limousines and diamonds - and true, that's not an entirely bad thing.

But I'm worried about the impressionable young ones. The children. Their role models are so different from those of my generation (and I'm not even THAT old).

Children used to say "When I grow up, I want to be a doctor, like Papa/Uncle/Abang" It's now "When I grow up, I want to be Clay Aitken/Vince/Guy Sebastian"

True, there's nothing fundamentally wrong about that, but we used to look up to our teachers, our parents, our paediatrician, the pilot in his smart uniform, the firemen, the friendly neighbourhood policeman. Children used to be ingrained with the idea of 'helping people' and 'making the world a better place'. We used to want to be the superheroes, to help others, to do good.

Now children look up to singers, actors and tv hosts. Children are now entrenched with the idea that a life of glamour and being adored by millions of fans is the way to go. They want riches, adulation, hero-worship and idolization. They want to see themselves on tv, with millions of screaming fans chanting their name - they want to soak in publicity. They feel that such glamour is the measure of their worth.

I hope I don't come across as generalizing here. I'm NOT saying that being a celebrity is BAD. I'm NOT saying that ALL children are glamour-oriented. I'm merely saying that things have changed. And what Rita Dove said truly applies these days.

Being in the shadows is not a bad thing. A life without public recognition is not a wasted one.

You don't need to have fans to gain respect.

You don't need the spotlight in order to shine.

 
Ability to learn, un-learn, and re-learn
05.05.04 (7:26 pm)   [edit]
[i]*This was the letter I wrote and send to all local newspapers in Malaysia. It was published by Malaysiakini.com on May 5th and hopefully others will follow. Please do comment if you have any thing to share with.[/i]

Recently, the Asian Strategy and Leadership Initiative (Asli) organised an important event, the Malaysian Education Summit 2004. As a Malaysian student studying overseas, I would like to congratulate Asli for making this summit possible.

I am very glad that Asli has taken the initiative to address the various critical issues plaguing our education system. It is a great event to be celebrated as it brings together all the different people who are directly or indirectly engaged in the education system and share a common interest in creating a better education system for all.

As one of the generation of students who just went through the Malaysian education system not too long ago, I am now voicing out our demands for change, hoping that the new administration of the country will hear them.

The success of our education system is a subject very close and dear to our hearts. I think that by sharing my first-hand opinions, I can do my part in guiding policymakers towards the right direction.

I wish that concrete changes can be made so that our education system continues to provide a foundation on which our nation’s wealth and happiness thrives. Among these changes are:

Schools should teach students how to acquire skills, not just the skills itself;


Quality education should be holistic and begin from young, instead of being only a requirement of industry demands;


Innovation in both learning and teaching, which is crucial in the face of a brand new world.

As demand for graduates in Malaysia increases, employers’ expectation rise too. Excellent graduates are deemed to possess the ability to communicate and think critically, to be independent and disciplined, to have practical experience, and also to be aware of current global trends.

But as more and more graduates are being produced locally to meet this demand, preference for overseas graduates still prevails as a substantial number of local graduates fall short of employers’ expectations.

Mimos Bhd CEO Dr Tengku Mohd Azzman Shariffadeen said in an recent interview that the present illiterate are those who cannot read and write but the future illiterate will be most likely those who cannot learn, unlearn and re-learn.

It is more important to create young minds that have the ability to pick up the necessary skills required when the need arises, rather than to ingrain in them a fixed set of knowledge and skills.

While the quantity of graduates continues an upward trend, the same cannot be said of their quality - lowering of entrance qualification requirements coupled with inadequate teaching staff have produced graduates of insufficient quality.

Furthermore, many non-teaching obligations have caused lecturers and teachers to lose focus and therefore be unable to provide quality teaching. As far as producing quantities of quality graduates is concerned, a happy balance has to be struck.

A certain level of quality should be maintained by controlling admission criterion at institution of higher learning, but certainly, this should not be too rigorous till only certain segments of population are admitted. Such as situation would discourage social mobility.

To speed up the process of creating qualified graduates will mean upgrading Malaysian education at all levels. From young, students should be exposed to a more holistic and critical education. The current bias towards science and maths and the craze regarding examinations have created a generation of bookworms who memorise rather than understand.

On the other hand, universities can do much to upgrade themselves too - take in better qualified local and international students, ensure that the system is fair and provides for various different communities, and to specialise in certain areas.

Universities can choose to concentrate in certain disciplines to provide depth and quality, which in turn will attract good students from the region to study those disciplines. These local universities will then become universities of choice.

Teaching awards, better pay and remuneration schemes and a less non-teaching workload will not only inspire teachers to provide better a higher standard of education, but will also attract intelligent and talented people to the teaching profession.

Topic-relevant courses and seminars will also help teachers to handle students and to present materials more efficiently. Programmes like ‘Teach for America’ where fresh graduates in the US are recruited, trained, and then sent around the country to teach for two years is one model that can be emulated to help ease the current shortage of teachers in Malaysia.

Not only that, new technologies like e-learning will also alter the way things are learnt. E-learning provides various ways of learning new stuff and gives many opportunities to the ambitious.

As such, the society has to be open to knowledge and be aware of the potential of the Internet. Not much sharing is currently being done in Malaysia, in contrast to some overseas universities which provide their course websites on public domains.

However, e-learning in Malaysia will be unable to take off if students are not eager to learn. While the common misconception is that learning ends when one leaves school, it is actually a life-long process. The industrial sector can do its part by encouraging employees to further their studies, while the government must cultivate a culture of reading and learning amongst its people.

Not only that, universities can also co-operate with the industrial sector in providing a continuous learning environment. For instance, Universiti Sains Malaysia, which is situated next to the Bayan Lepas Industrial Area in Penang, could provide classes for professionals to upgrade themselves either after work or on weekends.

And with R&D being increasingly emphasised by the government it is worrying to note that certain issues have caused a shortage of quality researchers in Malaysia - the general disinterest and prejudice about research, the lack of undergraduate participation in research and the lack of funding and grants for various scientific projects.

Researchers who are based overseas are often unable to return to Malaysia, as funds, equipment and expertise in their respective areas are sorely lacking.

As I continue to listen to the Education Ministry’s mandates, I would also like the ministry (and the Higher Education Ministry) to listen to our feedback.

[i]by Rais Imran - Cornell University 06'[/i]
 
Pre-enroll suck ass
04.12.04 (5:20 am)   [edit]
Quotes from Coursenroll:

* Accessing Database...
* Your command has failed, would you like to try again.
* An error has occured while executing this task.
* (Very rarely) Your class has been added.

For those of you stalking me (and those who are just ridicously curious...be careful, by the way, cuz curiosity killed the cat), here are the classes I'm signed up for:

[b]CHEME 401 [/b]- Molecular Principles of Biomedical Engineering
[b]CHEME 313 [/b]- Chemical Engineering Thermodynamics
[b]BIOBM 330 [/b]- Principles of Biochemistry
[b]NES 311 [/b]- Advance Intermediate Arabic
[b]NES 268 [/b]- Ancient Egyptian Civilization

So take classes with me!! You know you want to!!

 
Ivy League Blues
04.01.04 (7:50 am)   [edit]
[i][b]Ivy League mornings:[/b][/i]

[b]Penn[/b]: Give Bob the Bum a dime, check on transfer papers.
[b]Brown[/b]: smoke breakfast, say prayer for no grade system.
[b]Columbia[/b]: deep breath of smog, take taxi to class.
[b]Dartmouth[/b]: gargle moonshine, chop wood for heating.
[b]Princeton[/b]: yawn, feel like a geek, dress the part.
[b]Yale[/b]: floss, snort coke, come out of closet.
[b]Harvard[/b]: wake up, bathe in glow of undeserved rep.(Stupid fucking Harvard and their stupid fucking grade inflation ...)


[b]Cornell[/b]: roll over, sober up...cry

 
Fish Gotta Swim. Birds Gotta Fly. And Men Gotta Marry
03.12.04 (12:57 pm)   [edit]
Last month, when I was back home in Malaysia I attended a friend’s wedding.

As I was entering the house, I met the bride’s mother, with whom I haven’t crossed paths for quite sometime, and the first thing she blurted out was, “Didn’t you know that she is getting married?” after opening the door. Looking up, I answered “She is one lucky girl, Auntie. What can I say?”.

Yet she kept on pestering, “It is about time you get married too, what would other people say?”

“Oh, come on, Auntie, don’t mind those people. They just don’t have better things to do. Just tell them, I’ll marry when I want to get married. And tell them, if ever I do, they are not invited," I jested.

Don’t you just hate to go to weddings, nowadays? Especially when you are not married?

It is times like these that I think I should find a woman to marry just to piss people off. Not only my friends, but also my family members. After all their favourite phrase when greeting me now is, “Bila Lagi?” I can’t wait to turn 40 years old when people can say, “He going to die an old anak teruna.”

Sheer wart of irritation!

Not only that, one of my aunts is always passing advice on child rearing, “When you have children, you must make sure that your children bla..bla..bla”.

Duh! It must completely lost on her that I am very much unmarried and I can't even imagine having sons or daughters. I don’t mind the advice in advance. InsyaAllah, I will have my own family in the near future, who I hope, InsyaAllah, will teach me the lesson of joy everyday.

But the comments seem to me a reminder of the moral condemnation of my bachelorhood from a traditionally benchmarked society.

There are people who marry and stay together. And then there are people who do not marry and yet stay together, a relationship whose morality may be questioned or objected depending on which part of the world the couple lives in. The rules of courtship change along with everything in life. Different rules should apply for different personalities.

You come across so many who say, “I want to get married” all the time and when they actually get married they don’t end up being happy. A friend of mine would ring ocassionally, advising me not to get married. The first time he told me not to get married was just after the first month of his marriage. People are always saying that the suffering starts after three months of the marriage. He is way ahead of the curve. He tried his best in fulfilling his responsibilities as a husband and then father to be. The question arises, is he happy? As of this moment , I can only speculate. Marriages it seemed are not by themselves assurances of happiness.

A young woman may never quite “feel ready” for marriage, but if she prepares herself for the sacrifices ahead, she will be as ready as she ever will be. When you marry someone, you don’t marry one person, you marry three. The person you think they are, the person they really are and the person they will become as a result of marriage.

Some men are “fortunate” enough to get married to more than one wife; I really wonder how they manage their domestic affairs.

My uncle married another without my aunt’s consent. What a nightmare! She broke down with her spirit hitting the floor. Her trust in him reached depletion which propelled the growing fury towards her spouse. She picked fights and found fault with him all the time. What worried everyone most is that when she loses control, she sometimes goes missing from the house.

She is a sad woman. She cries all the time. She blames herself for the failed marriage. She often talks negatively, her dialogue peppered with the “What if questions”. She got skinny and her skin glowed no more. The children were distraught, their emotions bordering on hatred, yet they missed their dad tremendously at the same time. My aunt’s family happiness went sour for a long time. Tragedy strikes yet life perpetuates. As time passes the wounds heal, yet the scars remain. She reminds me that men lie and women cry because of their lies, which I want to believe must be wrong. Life cannot be that tragic.

But, I do wonder about diminishing love. Through the turbulence that is her life, my aunt’s love towards the man she married is strong, as strong as when they built their marriage foundation 24 years ago. Waiting for the man she married to be again how he was when he loved endlessly. Love is weird, yet a concoction we all rather not pass.

What is the secret of a successful marriage? Personally, I cannot answer that question as I have not experienced marriage. I asked a friend, who has been married for a long time, how you would make a marriage work. He said tell your wife that she looks pretty even if she looks like a bus. I guess he can be considered a good role model or the spinner of gross lies or just an awful person.

I think, if men and women learn the truth about marriage, they can rise to the occasion. That honesty is the paradigm that wraps a marriage tight.

I sometime wish I was not born a Malay, for as a Malay marriage requires you to go through all the tradition or adat. Why can’t it be as simple as Britney Spears’ Vegas style wedding? Even the Arab have simpler marriage customs.

Also, I do not understand why some parents interfere with their children’s love life, deciding who their children should marry. Scrutinizing the child’s choice partner purely based on their colour of their skin, creed, religious, status, caste, the wealth of his/her family and blood of the potential partner. If they cannot convince you they will try their very best behind your back.

Gossiping and rumour-mongering are second nature to many parents.

They will scheme, sabotage and harass your partner and his or her family to ensure the relationship fails. Before you know it, the proverbial feces has hit the fan. It is like Quicksand. The harder you fight back and struggle to solve the issue the quicker and harder you sink deeper down. It really tests you as a human being.

But, if your partner is strong enough and able to stand the pressure from all sides and decide to go all the way with you, that would be another story. Maybe, like the movie Kabhi Kushi Kabhi Gham (had to stick a Hindi film title for extra imagination).

In future, when you are hit by a crisis on the scale of a tsunami, thanks to this ordeal, you will survive. You are after all a true survivor of THE hazard of life, the wedding process.

Ladies, one quick advice, when he says his neck hurts or his body aches, really pamper him silly. Men when ill are like whining infants who need to be attended to round the clock. Remember, however, that he is never too ill to watch football matches between Manchester United against Arsenal on the tube in the wee hours or play games on the PC.

I am still figuring out what men can do for women, so an apology and a mention to watch out for this space.

 
My Korean Fantasy
03.08.04 (6:50 pm)   [edit]
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Goo Hye Jin

[b]Kiss - Because I'm a Girl Lyrics and Translation[/b]

Dodeche ar suga obso namjadurui maum
wonhar ten onjego da juni ije tonande
ironjog choumirago nonun thugbyorhadanun
gu marur midosso negen hengbogiosso

[i]I just cant understand the hearts of men
they tell you they want you and then they leave you
this is the first time, you're special
I believed those words and I was so happy[/i]

marur haji guresso nega shirhojyoda go
nunchiga obnun nan nur bochegiman hesso
norur yoghamyonsodo manhi guriurgoya
sarangi jonbuin nanun yojainika

[i]you should have told me you didn't like me any more
but I couldn't see that and you just rushed me
although I will curse you I'll still miss you
since I am a girl, to whom love is everything[/i]

modungor swibge da jumyon gumbang shirhjungnenunge
namjara durosso thollin mar gathjin anha
dashinun sogji anhuri maum mogo bojiman
todashi sarange munojinunge yoja ya

[i]i heard that if you give up things too easily
to a man, he will get bored with you
i don't think this is wrong
a girl says that she will never be fooled again
but she will fall in love again[/i]

marur haji guresso nega shirhojyodago
nunchiga obnun nan nur boche giman hesso
norur yoghamyonsodo manhi guriurgoya
sarangi jonbuin nanun yojainika

[i]you should have told me you didn't like me any more
but I couldn't see that and you just rushed me
although I will curse you I'll still miss you
since I am a girl, to whom love is everything[/i]

[narration] Onur urin heojyosso budi hengbogharago
noboda johun sarammannagir barandago
nodo darun namjarang togathe nar saranghanda go marhanten onjego
sorjighi na nega jar doenungo shirho
naboda yepun yoja manna hengboghage jar sarmyon otohge
guroda nar jongmar ijoborimyon otohge
nan irohge himdunde himduro juggenunde
ajigdo nor nomu saranghanunde

[i][narration]
Hey babe
the pain
it's not enough to describe how i feel
we were so happy together
but I know now
I've been blind
you told me that you'd never let me down
whenever I needed you you'd always be here
I can forgive but I cant forget
even though you hurt me
I still love you
I still love you[/i]

sarangur wihesoramyon modun da har su inun
yojaui chaghan bonnungur iyong hajinun marajwo
hanyojaro theona sarangbadgo sanunge
irohge himdurgo oryourjur mollasso

[i]don't take advantage of a girl's willingness to do anything for love
and her caring instinct
i didn't know that to be born as a girl and to be loved was so hard
although i will curse you i'll still miss you
since i am a girl, to whom love is everything
although i will curse you i'll still miss you
since i am a girl, to whom love is everything[/i]

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My Japanese Fantasy
03.08.04 (6:43 pm)   [edit]
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Utada Hikaru

[b]First Love[/b]

Saigo no kisu wa
Tabako no flavor ga shita
Nigakute setsunai kaori

Ashita no imagoro niwa
Anata wa doki ni irun darou
Dare wo omotterun darou

You are always gonna be my love
Itsuka dareka to mata koi ni ochitemo
I'll remember to love
You taught me how
You are always gonna be the one
Ima wa mada kanashii love song
Atarashii uta utaeru made

Tachidomaru jikan ga
Ugokidasou to shiteru
Wasuretakunai koto bakari

Ashita no imagoro niwa
Watashi wa kitto naiteru
Anata wo omotterun darou

You will always be inside my heart
Itsumo anata dake no basho ga aru kara
I hope that I have a place in your heart too
Now and forever you are still the one
Ima wa mada kanashii love song
Atarashii uta utaeru made

You are always gonna be my love
Itsuka dareka to mata koi ni ochitemo
I'll remember to love
You taught me how
You are always gonna be the one
Mada kanashii love song
Now and forever


 
Life really stinks...
03.08.04 (4:17 pm)   [edit]
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Dazed, Clueless and Uniquely Human
03.08.04 (4:13 pm)   [edit]
Last Sunday, at about 2 pm , I came up with an interesting theory.

It was one of those boring Ithaca Sunday winter afternoons which was oppressively cold. Tempting as it was to indulge in a Sunday siesta, I decided instead to watch an episode of National Geographic on the idiot old-school lounge tv. And a thought suddenly dawned over me as I observed the mating rituals between two crickets take place. Have we ever come to a final conclusion as to what really makes the human species unique from these animals? We alone enjoy the faculty of speech, a well credentialed anthropologist will tell you. We make and create tools, another will insist. We're uniquely capable of exploiting our fellow-creatures. We're conceptual beings, fond of signs and symbols. We create art and architecture. We celebrate, we mourn.

Somehow though, I'm really not convinced. Other than the obvious conflict with religious doctrine, I am not a believer of Darwinism and mirth skeptically at the theories of Richard Dawkins for the simple reason that I believe sometimes what makes the human species unique and different from animals is that we are the only creatures capable of seriously messing up our lives.

I'll grant you that all of the above are human traits. But nobody will persuade me that the aforementioned traits are exclusively ours.

Take speech for starters. Monkeys and hyenas are as glib and oratorial in their own way as the most articulate of politicians. Several bird species have been known to use primitive tools, if not a jigsaw or a hammer. As for the rest: it is an immutable truth that cats have been exploiting humans for ages; gorillas appear to appreciate symbols and signs more than your average KL driver; chimps, when given the opportunity with a brush, have proven themselves masters of abstract expressionism; dogs celebrate and mourn with the best of us; lions mate for hours at a time -- they seem to realize there's more to the game than making babies, although they haven't gone as far as to enhance their experience with lace lingerie or scented bubble-baths.

If you really want to know what makes our special brand of primate unique among all the denizens of our planet, pull up a chair. Here's what I think, and see if you agree: we're the only creatures capable of messing up our lives.

Humans are the idiot-savants of the animal kingdom. We're born with astoundingly acute faculties in some areas -- such as the ability to build the tallest towers or solve quadratic equations -- yet we're alarmingly clueless about basic issues like finding our way through life and love .

Case in point. I had a conversation with a girlfriend the other day who said “The problem with men these days is that they simply don't know what a woman wants!”

Excuse me-lah, but as boys were we ever given a list of these things in our Tatarakyat lessons at school? It simply ends up as something that one learns through a series of trial and error experiences. The fact is that no other species is so gifted as ours, yet none is so depressingly prone to self-induced failure and disaster.

Does a porcupine worry about how he comes across to other porcupines? Do orang utans need to attend self-esteem and motivational workshops? You'll never find a rabbit confessing to millions of other rabbits that he slept with a squirrel. No khinzir * has ever had its belly-button pierced. You'll search in vain for the penguin that made a bad career move. When was the last time a squid lost a fortune in the KLSE or an armadillo entered a drug rehabilitation centre?

Granted,underachievers come in all shapes and sizes -- furry, feathered, scaled and shelled. But our animal friends usually fail as a consequence of overmatched genes or bad luck with the local predators. Aside from the occasional roadkill, the critters don't bungle their lives the way we do; their defeats AREN'T self-orchestrated.

Take walruses. While the bulkiest male invariably wins himself a harem of walrettes, the failed contenders have to lengthen out a hardscrabble existence on cold northern seascapes. But at least they can't be accused of making foolish choices; they had their turn in the arena, and they simply couldn't unseat the champ. They don't waste the rest of their lives in futile fantasizing. They either try again later or learn to accept their lot. Take heed, fellow humans pining from lost love, from this fine comeback trait.

Even a barnacle makes the right choices. It attaches itself securely to the hull of a ship or the bottom of a wharf, where it can peacefully gobble plankton well into its retirement years.

To bungle is uniquely human. Because we're born helpless and ignorant, we're forced to spend an inordinate percentage of our formative years filling our empty heads with knowledge. But what kind of knowledge do we fill them with? How to survive long bleak periods of loneliness and desperation? How to avoid the pitfalls of pleasing others? How to snatch a modicum of happiness from a life of drudgery?

Here’s my proposal for reform to the Education Ministry. Let’s revamp the entire curriculum and start a new core (or "must pass") subject called Living Skills, graded highly on the syllabus, which really teaches what it means. We don’t simply need good accountants, engineers or IT professionals, we want to shape individuals who are strong, confident, ethical and thus able to take the lead when it really matters. Individuals who make humanity swell with pride.

But no, our heads are still crammed full of logarithms and English verb conjugations. Not that there would be anything wrong with that -- if only our teachers also taught us how to live. We have to find out for ourselves, and invariably we make choices that impair us for life living in this great country of ours, like deciding to do a degree in maritime history.

When was the last time a buffalo ever did anything that silly?
 
Dog Emoticons
03.07.04 (8:08 pm)   [edit]
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One Girlfriend, One Dictionary
03.07.04 (7:43 pm)   [edit]
Yesterday, I was in the car with my friend, Norman, overhearing the conversation he was having with his girlfriend. I’m not a busybody but it couldn’t be avoided. His handphone was like a speaker.

He was very patient with her while she was trying all out to interrogate him, seeking the right answers to her questions. I was snickering quietly at his pain, the agony that he had to go through, which all men have to go through in courtship and in marriage. I will always remember what he said after the phone call: “Men are always fair and women are always right.”

Well, having fights in a relationship is common though everyone wants their union to go smoothly. No one wants to continually fight, argue, scream, yell and stay all riled up until anxiety attacks drive you over the edge. We have often heard “Oh, I want to make you pay for what you did…..yada, yada, yada”.

Feelings of anger and discontentment are learned behavior. Both emotions originate from misdirected thoughts that we just don’t want to let go. After all, we’re right. And it feels so good when we’re right. You know you’re right. They know you’re right. Everyone thinks they’re right. Damn, I’m confused. The first step is to look for a solution to any conflict. You must realise that making a relationship work is truly within your control.

To make it work, begin by looking for what you have in common, don’t dwell on differences. When we concentrate and put the relationship first, our animosity towards each other melts away.

What I love most when you have a fight with your beloved is the after-the-fight period, when both have made peace. Just the first touch or look is electrifying, pure attraction. The outcome: you will get to know your partner better, good or bad. Your love bond with your partner gets stronger.

If relationships were as simple as having sex, everyone would be in love and getting along. Sex is the easy part. It’s natural. Hanging on to a long-lasting adult relationship is what is hard. You do have to work at it. It takes effort to keep the well of communication going.

If you are involved with a woman, the game changes almost daily. I’m not going to get into the men are simple and women are complicated nonsense but will say that because women are emotional creatures, they do complicate things.

Finding the love of your life. Is that possible? Is there such a thing as soulmates? Perhaps if one takes their times dating and wait till he or she is older, then I think the chance of meeting the ideal person is more possible. If you get hitched in your early twenties, you are missing on much incredible potential! Witness the high rates of infidelity and divorce.

It takes both parties involved to be totally upfront and honest about their feelings, not only about how they feel about each other but also about what they expect from the other person. On the other hand, some things are better left unsaid. There is nothing wrong with secrets.

Most clarify that trust is the biggest issue. Women want a man to be completely faithful to only her, and vice versa. Is that possible? If we are trustworthy, we can then be fair. Men and women who cheat and lie will end up choosing partners who will cheat and lie. Trust is a character trait that seems to be the backbone of a relationship. You could know someone for years and find out they have been cheating. It’s a chance you take when you get involved in a relationship.

The relationship between men and women stirs up infinite questions. It’s a topic of many conversations. Perhaps the key is to simply enjoy the time you spend with the person you are attracted to and care about. The difference between men and women assures us we will be always be in conflict and we will never know what will happen next.

Ladies, an advice: When you see a man as someone you can laugh with, love with and enjoy for who he is, you can begin to enjoy your feminine nature without losing respect as an intelligent and successful individual. Don’t wait. Seize the moment. Mesmerise him. Make him yours. Nurture him. Nurturing is one of the many gifts of women to men.

 
The Commonwealth : Outdated, Outlasted, Outplayed?
12.14.03 (3:45 pm)   [edit]
While Bernama choose to report that the international community was saddened by the pullout of Zimbabwe from the Commonwealth, many leaders from first world Nations seem particularly pleased with the outcome. The Malaysian government has backed the reinstatement of Zimbabwe into the group and I strongly support the Malaysian government's stand.

For one, principally, I'm a backer for constructive engagement. Isolationism is the practice of isolating particular countries through sanctions or removal of membership from organization, in a bid to force them into compliance of a predefined common good. The Malaysian government has long been a backer of constructive engagement with among other efforts, included the joining of Myanmar in ASEAN. Detractors argue that constructive engagement only leads to the strengthening of the dictatorial regimes, but they often forget that it leads to the following very important factors:

1) Trade ensure that the money trickle downs to the people and assisting in the process of buidling a healthy middle class. With economic wealth comes a bigger purchasing power parity, comes change in how the government interacts with its people. The best example of this would be China. Try talking about choosing your own representative 10 years ago and you'd probably be shot. Today, flawed as it may be, some semblance of democracy is seen when certain municipals have local council elections.

2) Trade is also like drugs. Once you have a little bit, you'll continuously want more. This is a good thing because you then can barter change for more trade. Countries trading with Myanmar for example, have been able to implicitly tell the Junta to engage more with the international community. Heck, the fact that the Junta is even talking to UN special envoy Razali about Suu Kyi is a success in it by itself. Trading countries usually have this clout with the regime because their image is affected in the process of trading with the regime.

3) Regimes are often untouched by sanctions. It's the people on the ground that suffer while the member of the regime get strengthen by diverting the attention of problems as caused by the individuals sanctioning the country. Remember how Napolean in George Orwell's Animal Farm said that he had to eat the apples and milk to watch over the welfare of the other farm animals? Precisely that happens. The regime has to live the life they live to look after the people while the citizens suffer the wrath of sanctions.

But the biggest irony in the whole Zimbabwe saga at the Commonwealth is the fact that a large number of western countries that have hit back at Mugabe have cuddled up to Russia despite the flawed elections in that country. The silence from Britain and Australia in particular, is deafening. Also interesting to note how Australia and Britain are actively pushing for the reinstatement of Pakistan because Pakistan were a vital ally in the fight against terrorism. All the ruckus about the illegal coup in 1999 was forgotten. Some of the crimes perpetrated by the Russian government, appear to be the somewhat similar to the hullaballoo they created about Mugabe.

Don't get me wrong, Mugabe is no Jesus Christ. But the basis used for Zimbabwe's exclusion from the commonwealth could just as well exclude more than half of the 54 member countries. Maybe Syed Hamid was right after all. Whatever brand of democracy is correct depends alot on who you know, not why you are doing it in a particular way.

Zimbabwe's withdrawal means that we have now lost another avenue for engaging with Mugabe. But it's not all about the western world versus African nations (except Ghana and Kenya who supported the suspension). It's also about the reason why these African nations want Mugabe back that is worrying. Most if not all African nations (with perhaps South Africa being the exception), have a great amount of issues in the area of governance. Many back Mugabe not for the common good, but to maintain the spirit of African brotherhood - (whatever that might be other than supporting the tyrant on the other side so they look good).

But perhaps it's also interesting to look at the relevance of the Commonwealth in todays world. To me, it still remains a big talk shop bonded only by the common fact that they were once British colonies. But a big talk shop is way better than no talk shop. Tom Allard from theAge probably summed it up the best:

[i]But Zimbabwe's decision to withdraw made a mockery of the three days of intense negotiations and exposed the Commonwealth as a body that is little more than a forum for debate with little economic clout and no real leverage over rogue states other than the prestige of being a member. [/i]
Engage not isolate.

 
AIDS, Drugs and Malaysia
12.14.03 (3:33 pm)   [edit]
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[i]Gautama Buddha's leaving his palace was his first step in his journey in achieving enlightment. Probably it is time we took the first step[/i]

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AIDS, Drugs and Malaysia
12.14.03 (3:30 pm)   [edit]
World AIDS day just came and went. Promises were made, people were interviewed, people were educated, people turned a deaf ear. With all the education and technology that's available now, you would think that the number of AIDS cases would be decreasing, not escalating. The stigma surrounding AIDS is Malaysia is depressing. Radio Four conducted an interview with two AIDS patients that I happened to catch on the way home from work last week. They spoke about it in a factual way and educated many people I'm sure. At least I hope so, for our own good.

With research in Malaysia showing that most AIDS cases are contracted by the sharing of needles/syringes, one has to wonder whether our government should in fact legalize drugs. Now, I don't meant to sound like a hippie who's out to legalize drug in order to get my hands on all available strains of marijuana, but hear me out. I'm in fact opposed to the idea of legalizing drugs and I will explain why later, but let's see what would actually happen if we do legalize drugs in Malaysia.

Legalization

Firstly, many say that it would prevent health risks from surfacing because there would be wider availability of clean syringes, of doctors being able to medicate and facilitate the drugs users addictions easily. Clean needles are hard to come by in our country and this causes many drug users to share them instead. Legalizing drugs would ensure access to clean syringes and safe drugs. As a trickle effect most researchers say other things would then fall into place, such as the legalisation of drugs would lessen crime, the government would be able to tax the variety of drugs to their benefit, make it available to all, not unlike substances such as tobacco and alcohol.

Legalizing drugs would make it more of a "safe" activity not unlike buying alcohol and lessen it's connotations with crime so that recreational drug users would not have to be exposed to the so-called dark side associated with drug use. Besides that, in prohibiting drug use, many argue that it will only increase drug use and abuse because people don't take too kindly on being stopped from doing something they want involuntarily. Take alcohol prohibition legislation in America, bathtub gin and other various alcoholic substances made it's apperances on the market because there was demand. When there is demand, someone is going to supply it and just because legislation made alcohol "unavailable". Prohibition didn't mean alcoholism dissapeared. It would be lesser in availability but still have the same effects on people and make the mob a whole lot richer.

Regardless of all the benefits that researchers may try to bring to light, in an Asian country such as ours we can argue the legalisation of drugs to no end, but it would only happen when pigs fly . Ours is a culture in which drug use is quite prevalent, one only needs to walk down the back lanes of Lorong Haji Taib to see it with their own eyes. This is not to say people in higher societal fringes don't indulge in them as well. From the figures, we can see that drug use is escalating even though the government seems to think that cocaine isn't readily available (haha!) and many cases of AIDS transmitting through the use of unclean needles have been recorded.

A dangerous precedence

In my opinion, I doubt the legalisation of drugs would decrease escalating AIDS cases, in fact I think there is a possible chance of it escalating even more. The stigma around drugs and the harsh penalties if found using or possesing drugs is what I think stops many of us from even attempting to use. Making it readily available even under the stance of trying to make it more sterile and quality controlled would bring in a new market of people who would want to try drugs, keep using them and it might even start a new wave of addiction and drug related deaths. I could however, be wrong. But it does seem clear however, that with wider use of drugs, there would be more repercussions to it, more harm. While the law would guarantee easier access to clean syringes, a drug user seeking a quick high, might not be so careful.

In any case, the government needs to start taking the issue of drug addiction and it's obvious link to the number of AIDS related cases into consideration. Turning a blind eye to the prevalence of illicit drugs in the country is not the answer. It's not an issue of laws anymore, as we have a bunch of really harsh ones where drugs are concerned, but it is in fact the issue of actually going out there and trying to find a possible solution to prevent these cases from happening. All easier said than done I'm told, so start implementing legislation. We don't see readily available drug councilling and safe houses in Malaysia. More needs to be done to educate the public if these services are indeed available. While so much money is being wasted making the longest thosai or the longest lemang, one would think the government and the corporate sector would start taking notice of things like this and add more effort into helping our fellow countrymen.

The vicious cycle

Drug addiction is not something that is easy to live with. I've talked to some drug addicts before and most of the time, it's hard to find a way out. The thought of over-dosing, the thought of AIDS, the thought of how to get the next high are among the many things on their mind. Some might argue that they put themselves in this situation, they should get out of it. If only it were that simple. Smokers would emphatise, once you're addicted, it's a long struggle to stop and it is arguably a lot easier if you have a support system to try and get out of it. Think of all the dead, the dying and the ones struggling with their addiction. Religious bodies should play an active role in rehabilitating our fellow Malaysians so that they can return to servicing the country and add to it's productivity.

Educating the public about these issues are key. Without education, drug addicts continue to be likened to criminals (which by law they are), however the lines aren't that clear cut. After losing a few friends to drug addiction only those who are close to them would understand what a losing battle it is with little to no co-operation from the general public. The stigma around AIDS, around homosexuality, around drug abuse needs to dissapear, and education as well as discussion are some of the few things that need appear in our society to stop so many of our Malaysians from these tragic deaths.

 
Outdoor Polo 03'
11.22.03 (11:23 pm)   [edit]
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